…or lack of it.
Fear can cripple you and keep you from doing what is necessary to accomplish your goals, make the money you deserve and live life to the fullest.
But everyone is afraid sometimes. So what can you do about it?
First of all…
“Courage is not the absence of fear. The absence of fear is stupidity!”
Fear is a survival mechanism. It’s OK to be afraid once in a while- your life depends on it!
Fear keeps you from doing really stupid and dangerous things…usually. Fear is your natural response to danger and it’s good to pay attention to truly dangerous things.
It’s just not healthy when you let fear rule your life or stop you from doing what is important, meaningful and at times…scary!
Courage is the ability to act in the face of fear. Courage is defined by your ability to take action in the presence of danger, risk or uncertainty.
But what if you’re just not courageous? Can you learn to be brave?
- Start small…
- Learn to pick your battles.
You don’t have to face your biggest fears first. Start by doing something with a moderate degree of fear, risk or discomfort.
Granted, sometimes we’re thrown into extreme situations. You wouldn’t choose to be trapped in a burning building, but if you find yourself in that situation you are most likely to respond based on past experiences; even those with less risk or danger.
That’s why preparation and training are so important. Practice is the antidote to fear. The more prepared you are, the more likely you are to handle danger, risk or discomfort without running away…
…which is sometimes the right thing to do!
Learn to pick your battles…
The first rule is self-defense is…RUN! We train to fight to prepare for the situation when flight is not an option.
Know which things are worth fighting for and which are not. Decide when it is right to stay and fight and when it is more prudent to turn and walk away.
Courage does not mean you fight every fight. Some battles are righteous- others are not.
Take some time to think about your fears.
- Which are holding you back?
- Which fears can you face on a smaller scale?
- Which fears involve authentic danger and which are greater fears in your mind than in reality?
Decide which fears are worth facing today…and do it.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” ~Dale Carnegie